What is Narcissism - Selfie Syndrome

What is Narcissism?

● Narcissistic personality disorder involves a preoccupation with self and how one is perceivedby others. Narcissists pursue gratification from vanity and the admiration of their own physical and intellectual attributes.

Signs of narcissism:

○ Unilateral listening
■ Instead of listening in order to respond, narcissists listen in order to dismiss, negate, ignore, minimize or otherwise make someone else’s concerns irrelevant
○ Preoccupied with self
■ Narcissists act selfishly and, even if being generous, are generally only responsive to their own concerns
○ Being above the rules
■ Narcissists feel that they are above others and that the rules don’t apply to them
○ Inability to take criticism
■ While narcissists have an inflated idea of their own importance, they can be quickly deflated by negative criticism
○ Refusal to take responsibility
■ Narcissists have a tendency to blame others for things that go wrong
○ Quick to anger
■ Narcissists may become easily angered by critical comments or being ordered what to do

Negative Effects of Social media:

● According to research from California State University: Excessive use of social networking may be connected to psychiatric problems
○ Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder
○ Depression
○ Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder
○ Narcissistic Personality Disorder
○ Hypochondriasis
○ Schizoaffective and Schizotypal Disorders
○ Body Dysmorphia
○ Voyeurism
○ Addiction

The Effects of Popular Platforms:

● Facebook- The Social Mirror
○ People who use Facebook the most tend to have more narcissistic or insecure personalities
○ Those with higher narcissism scores were frequently updating statuses, posting pictures of themselves and using quotes or mottos to glorify themselves
○ Based on a study of Facebook users ages 18-25 using the Narcissism Personality Inventory and Rosenberg Self-Esteem Scale.
○ A 2012 survey of divorce lawyers showed that Facebook had been implicated in ⅓ of all divorce filings the previous year

● Twitter- The Social Megaphone
○ In a University of Michigan study of college undergraduates, it was found that those who scored higher in narcissism also posted more often on Twitter
○ Young people are using Twitter to broaden social circles and broadcast views. This usage leads people to over evaluate the importance of their opinions

Is narcissism an inevitable reaction to our social culture?

Mother Mary Appearance on a SJMC Hospital, Subang Jaya, Malaysia

Image becomes clearer, say witnesses

SUBANG JAYA: The image of what some are claiming to be that of the Blessed Virgin Mary on one of Sime Darby Medical Centre's windows here has continued to draw people from all over Malaysia.

Many eyewitnesses, some of whom had been visiting the centre for several days, said the image had “grown clearer” since Saturday.

Malacca-Johor Diocesan Pastoral Institute director Rev Deacon Dr Sherman Kuek said if the immediate result actually excited deeper faith among the Catholics, it was a good thing.

“But even so, this by no means confirms the authenticity of the image as an apparition of Mary,” said Rev Kuek, who holds a doctorate in theology.

He advised Catholics to always keep their attention on Jesus Christ.

Traffic along the medical centre was heavy yesterday, with many parking their cars along the side of the road to see the image.

Some were seen taking photographs with their various electronic gadgets while others prayed and sang hymns.

“The image was brighter and clearer than yesterday. It is certainly different,” said student Kyle Lim, 21.

Some eyewitnesses reported seeing another image forming on one of the windows below, which they claimed resembled the face of Jesus.

Special containers for people to place candles were also set up there.

Photographs of the image, believed to have appeared several days ago, have gone viral on Facebook.

Immortals poured out golden stone in Kepong!

Believe it or not, the pious worshiper in return gets his prayer fulfilled.

Gosh, human mortality power is greater than the immortals' !! See the below testimonial photo below :

Unrevealed 2011 version "Apple" ipod

Good news, it seems, from Apple, next product after the recently launched ipad 2 !

Latest version of ipod by 'Apple' , the degradable (is that so?) yet most affordable (I guess) not made public for 2011....

iPad 2 ~ Gray Market in Hong Kong via actual lauching @ 25April 2011

Apple Fanboys & FanGirls,
Fly to HK now... Tomorrow is the birth date for iPad 2 in this Oriental Pearl isle.

Its considered cheaper than i Pad 1 , 16GB model cost HK$3,888

Have a read on this article from micgadget.com (Made In China), it's a pre-launching (gray market-lah tu...) incredible market demand & fantastic price found over Hong Kong & the mainland China.

iPad 2 Selling At Crazy Prices in Hong Kong’s Gray Market (update: video!)

Steve Jobs did not announce an official release date for the iPad 2 in Hong Kong, but residents can buy them at retail – for a premium, just two days after the iPad 2 launches in the U.S. You will be shocked, a 16GB Wi-Fi model costs about $7,900 Hong Kong Dollars (around $1014) in the gray market, that’s about twice the U.S. price!!!

UPDATE: Video! And more information!

It is perfectly normal to see this in Hong Kong. Last year, the iPhone 4 and iPad were sold to local Apple fanboys at crazy prices in the gray market, since fanboys wanted to get the latest Apple gadget at the soonest. Just like always, vendors in the bustling gadget market in Hong Kong’s Sin Tat Plaza (先達廣場), known colloquially as the ‘Mobile Phone Mall’, are promising to bring the latest Apple product, iPad 2, to early adopters. Since the iPad 2 will be available for sale in the U.S first, the retailers will only have to import the iPads from America.

Amazingly, a retailer, Mr. Lo, who is the ‘master’ of the gray market in Hong Kong, who distributed hundreds to thousands of iPhone 4s and iPads to China’s gray market last year, has already received 200 orders before the launch, and he has prepared eight couriers in New York, Chicago, San Francisco and Los Angeles to hop on planes to Hong Kong after securing about 200 iPads and he will get the device to eager consumers by March 13, that’s today. And he did it.

Mr. Lo is preparing to distribute the iPad 2s to pre-ordered customers, early in the morning when luggages of iPad 2s arrived his store.

An employee opening up a luggage, which contains up to 40 boxes of iPad 2s.

What’s the selling price? Well, it’s insane. See below for the price tags.

iPad 2 with Wi-Fi (Black)

16GB: HKD$7,980 (about $1025)

32GB: HKD$8,980 (about $1153)

64GB: HKD$9,980 (about $1280)

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iPad 2 with Wi-Fi + 3G (Black)

16GB: HKD$9,680 (about $1243)

32GB: HKD$10,680 (about $1371)

64GB: HKD$11,880 (about $1525)

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If you want a white version, you need to add HKD$1500-2000 (about $192-256) for every models. We are more shocked when we see the prices for the smart cover and HDMI adapter. Prices below.

iPad Smart Cover – Polyurethane – Any colors: HKD$780 (about $100)

iPad Smart Cover – Leather – Any colors: HKD$1,280 (about $164)

HDMI Adapter: HKD$580 (about $74)

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It is really difficult to understand why the Hong Kongers want to secure an early iPad 2 for hefty premiums. Mr. Lo, the famous guy who first sold hundreds of iPhone 4 and iPad in the gray market, said customers have put down HKD$1,000 (about $128) deposit for each iPad 2 before the launch, and if there are some customers who could not accept the price they are offering now, the deposit will be refunded and the device will be reserved for late-comers. He has three special customers, one paid HKD$130,000 (about $16,684) for 10 iPads, other two are from the mainland China, one purchased 20 iPads and another ordered 50 iPads. When he was asked why customers are willing to spend so much money for an iPad 2, he said:

“Apple fanboys are willing to pay our prices to have the iPad 2 earlier. That’s how we earn money.”

However, Mr. Lo has only managed to prepare 60 units of iPad 2 today, and most of them are Wi-Fi + 3G 64GB models, while there are only two ten white iPads. Since there is over a hundred orders to handle, Mr Lo is calling his couriers to try their best to get more stocks from U.S. This may be difficult since Apple’s online store is showing delays of up two to three weeks for the slate and everywhere is sold out.

Mr. Lo has prepared lots of 64GB models! Why? Local Apple fanboys do not care about the prices or the storage capacity, they just want to get whatever the retailer has in stock, and since selling the Wi-Fi + 3G 64GB models will let the retailers to earn more profits, so that’s why Mr. Lo chose to import the high-end models.

Customers are informed to pick up their iPad 2s early in the morning, around 7-8am. Mr. Lo is the only retailer distributing iPad 2 at that time, all other vendors were not yet awake.

The guy above, Chen, is an App Developer. Here’s what he said, “Since iPad 2 features HDMI output, we can project its image to an external display for demo purpose, and at the same time, I can enjoy using an iPad 2 sooner than anyone else.“

Mr. Lo and his employees were busy distributing the iPad 2s and counting money…

Of course, the iPad 2 is not only selling at crazy price in Hong Kong, we took a look at Chinese online shopping site, Taobao, and the stores have set six price points, ranging from RMB¥5,200 to RMB¥8,200 (about $790 – $1246). That’s cheaper than Hong Kong’s gray market!

A Taobao vendor selling the iPad 2 online.

However, we are not sure if Taobao sellers are really selling a real iPad 2 to customers…. What’s more, we checked out Zhongguanchun, the most popular electronics shopping market in Beijing, and the vendors are ready to offer the iPad 2 on March 13, starting at RMB¥7,000 (about $1065) for the base model. Chinese consumers are required to put down RMB¥500 (about $76) deposit to make a reserve. Lots of Chinese Apple fanboys will get one, however, some may not. A female customer, Fang, said:

“It’s too expensive, I didn’t expect the vendors to offer this price, it’s over my budget! They are earning big profits from this!”

And a local Apple fanboy, Yang, said:

“I’m used to this. When Apple releases a new product, the vendors here will surely mark up the price. Since there is no date set for China release, we should patiently wait for Apple’s announcement and not visiting the gray market to get the ‘unlicensed’ product. The sales of the iPhone 4 in China is a good example!”

It is weird to see Apple not offering the iPad 2 to Hong Kong and China on March 25, while other 26 countries are getting it. We are guessing the problem is due to the gray market and scalpers in Hong Kong and China, since many people were reselling iPhone 4 for profits, especially in Hong Kong and Beijing.

Mr. Lo holding a white iPad 2. Cool!

Meanwhile, people who got an iPad 2 could sell the device to the gray market, starting from HKD$6,000 (about $770). Anyone doing this? If you are in Hong Kong, feel free to visit Mr. Lo’s store, G-World Mobile, located at:

F56, 1/F, Sin Tat Plaza, 83 Argyle Street, Mong Kok, Hong Kong

Whatsup ~ Wedding Invitation Agreement ?

Yup, that's what I received on the 1st day of this week, when I opened up my mail box.



Lately, I'm seeing agreements, such as Tenancy Agreement and Sales & Purchase Agreement, but I ended up having myself ought to sign up this so-called Wedding Invitation Agreement.






Tell ya, its the most formal Invitation I've ever gotten in my life.












Well, you will show out a curious yet dull expression when a wedding invitation card landed on your palms.




Why curious ? Coz you wonder who is the sender of this "Pink Bomb", and why dull, coz you expect the same monotone sentences pre-printed on the insider page.



Hoho, such a creative creation that he & his wife-to-be had came out with!

Putting aside having to fork up money for angpow on wedding dinner, the Host (The Bride & Groom-lah, who else) requires me to abide to the Invitation law woh ...!!























Makes me really wanna join their ceremony. Bravo !!

Ya know what? I'm glad that I accepted this friend of me, when he called up to get my consent to expect his "Big Day" invitation.

















Jangan main-main, the Guest need sign acceptance to this invitation, or else even if he or she do turn up on that evening, will be automatically disqualify to participate in some of the pre-arranged event(s)/program(s) during Wedding Reception !!




...and they leave happily ever after ....

THE END, got it?!

Save Cost in a Small Enterprise Company ~ Funny Ads

If you are a Enterprenuer, what would you do to save your overhead cost of your little company?

Watch this funny Thai video ads (as I said they are really innovative in producing commercial ads) for a some tips...

Colour Up our Life

Every piece of flower is able to blossom out a glory, with its on colours.


This is what Mother Nature teaches us, all this while...


One day, when you think your days are so dull, use your own power of Nature.




Do this : diffuse out your colours like what the flowers do...

Everybody can do that !

Husband & Wife Doggy ~ Touching Scene

I couldnt help but to post this, maybe its nothing to some, but I guess, not many human being will ever react so emotionally & naturally towards losing the life companion...






Actual scene taken by the lady you seen in the video, Chengdu, China.

全要lengkap,并不是全要tangkap

刚才骑了摩多，经过LPD收费站旁的摩多行道，有警擦们在鉴督，所以就把电单车驾驶速度放慢。

前面的警擦先生开口以马来语问了个问题，但因引擎吵声盖没了， 就听不清楚。

"Apa?" 我问他

"Semua Tangkap !!" 那警察答。

哈？？

"Apa, semua nak tangkap ??"


"Semua Lengkap?" Lesen, IC etc etc..


"Ohhh, ya ya ya ! Ada Ada!" 我送了一口气！


"I terdengar semua nak tangkap pulak!!!"


听候，我就踏油快快跑了.


可真是冒了一把冷汗，huhhh!!

New character in Avatar movie

Again, how true it could be, no one knows, at least till todate.

The new character looks like this, ehm, not so sure of the name, but tentatively I'd would call him Beanjy :


lag

lag

oops, fine now...

Blood Type O = Laugh Like O

Do you know what kind of blood type are you?


I am type A+ , and someone told me I am categorized as giam siap (stingy) group of people. Oh, ya ya ya .... (grumpy).

And then, she laughed loudly.

"And, can you guess which type am I belong to?"

"Mana saya tau" I responded

"I'm O blood type, that's why I laugh so loud , ha ha ha ha hahahahaha..."

You O guys and gals and gays out there, do you really laugh so freaking loud with your mouth open widely??

Proton Arena in Taiwan

Okay, my blog's gonna spread with web..oops, spiderweb liao.



A quick post here, just before we say bye bye to 2009!




Just got some photos on our dearly Proton vehicles, being "reformed" or rather transformed to impreza-engined( I don't recognize what is that, to be frank) motorcar!



K K K ! I'm not a fanzee of automobile, but so what.

But, since its something to do with our national car, I reckon its something worth mentioning it (though this is nothing breaking news anymore~ you knew this if you updates yourself through mags from aboards).

vtec b18c engine

Impreza engine

18' 5hole rim

masterpieces in display ~ Reform-In-Taiwan Proton Arena

Not to forget, HAAAAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!! Welcome Year 2010 .

倪安東‧The Blower's Daughter

Wow wow wow . . .

Look at that, despite of the fact that he's from the States, but, really ichiban!!

Enjoy。


p/s : Originated from Irish signer/songwriter Damien Rice, theme song from the movie Closer. This is a slide from a PK (kick-out) session in the 5th season of a popular Taiwanese singing competition. Many compliments him, and of course some commented as well, but personally, i felt he controlled the song pretty good, with great participating spirit. Impressive.

Latest TVB series in Hong Kong ..Altantuya?

In my previous entry, we acknowledged that Altantuya's name appears as one of the characters in Cambridge Dictionary. Ehm, don't ask me was that true or not, purchase one and check it out for me, waud ya?

The latest breaking news is the tragic will be shot as a TV series ..



aiya, sorry lah, i malas to translate what's written in the above poster...you all pandai pandai belajar Mandarin loh, i can provide tuition though, RM45 per hour , hee...


Ideally and logically, if that becomes a reality, highest audience rates will definitely come from Malaysian. Anyway, if Hong Kong's broadcast company does really make it a reality to film this as a TV series. I'm sure rated highest of audience wouldn't been Malaysian anymore.

Coz' for sure the series will by all mean, being banned mah..

후렌치 후라이 ! Korean McDonald Ads

Another aboard commercial ads, this round from Korea.

Personally, I think they've brought in an innovative yet relaxing ads. Look at that big guy's reaction when he realised all the fries were gone.



"Don't be risky your life".... wrong grammar though. :p

Marshmallow Test ~by Walter Mischel , Stanford University

Check it out. Watch for your self - Will you be overcome by Temptation or Greed?

Tell you what, the answer is Naivety conquers both of them, i guess.

See scene 3:06

LDP - Sucking traffic jam these few nites

Wow...
Damn jam along LDP these few nites.

How would you feel if you to and fro crossing two toll and yet stuck in the unnecessary long queue?? Paid LDP toll RM6.40 + petrol RM8 + Sprint Highway toll (coz I divert my route at SS2/Damansara to Federal Highway before entering back to LDP in order to avoid the insanity traffic towards Puchong) RM1.60. Total = RM16 per nite, and yet stuck in bad jam and heavy ran.


On the way back, passed by 1-U, the termometer banner showed temperature at 20'C !!! That's really a scarce scenario, especially in Klang Valley.

15Malaysia~One Future

Out of all the stories, somehow this particular one seems to resembling the melancholy felt by each and every Malaysian, in fact many souls in this modern world...Bravo to Tan Chui Mui.

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obssesion word : "...there's something wrong with the system..."

My Bahasa Malaysia story, the only one.

This, it was published in my school mag in my Form Four.



To many, I guess it would be something subtle enough to be mentioned, but I must admit to myself, how proud and touching it made me feel, when I noticed it being published as one the few articles, that year. Looking back, you (and myself) can be assured to be almost impossible to be handed out by my present self even if I would to squeeze completely dry out all of my brain juice.

So, I decided to preserve (by all mean not for purpose of showing off) this one & only Bahasa Malaysia language story.

Title : Mak, Ku Pohon Ampun

Aku masih ingat, wajah kedutan seorang perempuan tua yang telah ditelan masa hampir setengah abad. Sesungguhnya, segala-gala berlaku terlalu pantas, amatku tidak sangkakan seumur hidup. Memang sukar bagiku untuk menantap orang tua ini dengan secebis senyuman keriangan.

Segala takdir, kukira. Mak, aku ingin nafikan kerana semua ini terlalu membebankan buatmu, seorang insan uzur. Ku sepatuhnya tidak wujud dalam hidupmu.

Yangku tahu, aku dilahirkan ke dunia palsu ini sebagai anak yang serba kekurangan. Ini cukup membawa penderitaan tambahan bagimu. Aku tahu, manusia siapa yang tidak mengharapkan kemewahan dan kesempurnaan hidup yang bererti. Namun kau tak pernah runtuh dalam perjalanan pahit ini.

Sesungguhnya, kau kuanggap paling tabah dan tegap pendirianmu. Tapi maafkan aku, mak. Aku tak pernah menghargainya, aku tak pandai menyanjungi akan sikap dan nilai-nilaimu yang tinggi ini. Aku tak mengerti sewaktu itu. Aku budak biadap. Aku tidak fahamkan erti hidup ini.

Apa yang sepatut dilakukan, kutidak endahkan. Tegasku umpama keldai malas lagi degil yang hanya tahu makan dan tidur. Aku tidak mengerti, mak, aku tidak mengerti apakah gelora hidup ini yang merusuk dan memusnahkan identiti-identiti perangaiku yang sebenarnya. Maafkanku. Nafsu yang menguasai kehendakku pada hal tuhan tidak mengizinkannya. Aku tidak puas melihat kehidupan senang-lenang orang lain. Aku tidak mengira ia adalah keuntungan bagiku, tapi kemiskinan ini sekurang-kurangnya tidak payahku pertanggungjawabkan! Kaulah yang patuh kutuduhkan segala-galanya?

Hidupku boleh dikira tidak kompleks; dari kecil, ku hanya tahu bangun untuk berhadapan dengan hari-hari baru yang sia-sia. Tidakku risaukan apa yang perlu diisi perut, tidakku bimbangkan berapa butirkah beras yang masih berhuni di dalam tempayan di dapur burukmu. Sebaliknya, kau hanya leka dengan dua belah tangan lesumu demi untuk menyambung nafas kami dua beranak.

Sang suria yang gagah masih belum ingin menjenguh di garis ufuk timur, tapi kau telah melawat ke dapur mengerjakan masakan dan makanan untuk jualan pagi nanti. Aku patut membantu my tapi sebaliknya aku berat badan.

"Macam aku ni mengerah kau pula!". Kau hanya mengeluh tapi aku tetap merungut.

Oh! Memang tidak benar bagi aku untuk menyalahimu, mak. Semenjak ayah pergi menyahut panggilan Ilahi, kaulah yang terpaksa menanggung pikunya. Aku hanya sekadar berumur empat tahun ketika itu tapi aku masih kenangkan linangan air matamu yang menemani pemergian ayah. Entah mengapa ayah boleh menerima maut, aku tidak tahu. Kau terlalu sedih untuk memberitahuku. Hakikat ini sama sekali mengubah sikapmu selaku ibu yang periang dan penyayang kepada seorang yang pendiam dan tegas. Sekai-sekala, senyap-senyap aku melihat mu terduduk di dalam bayangan senja di suatu sudut sambil mata sayu mu merenung kosong ke arah bola mentari yang separuh tenggelam di bawah lautan biru.

Kau tekadkan hati yang telah rekah ditampar gelombang sedih yang kuat. Sekali apapun, kau tetap meneruskan perjalanan ini, mangharungi segala rintangan yang mungkin ada. Dari siang, kau memunggut mata pencarian dengan mencuci pakaian dari sebuah desa yang berdekatan. Selesainya, kau pula menghabiskan jahitan baju seluar orang lain yang sudi. Ada sahaja masa terluang, kau akan beredar kepada kerja-kerja kraftangan secara kecil-kecilan untuk menambahkan pendapatan.

Tibanya waktu persekolahanku sememangnya menggandakan lagi beban bagimu. Kau terpaksa bekerja kuat untuk menampung perbelanjaan tambahan ini.

"Nak, harap kau belajar bersungguh-sungguh, ya. Jadilah budak baik di sekolah, masa cikgu ajar, dengarlah dengan teliti. Jangan sekali-kali bergaduh dengan kawan-kawan. Kalau pandai, boleh naik sampai ke U, tau?"

Kau tetap tak lupa untuk menyematkan nasihat-nasihat dan pedoman ke dalam ingatanku walau sibuk sehari untuk bersama tugas-tugasmu. Itu sememangnya impianmu yang teragung sekali. Tapi sebaliknya, aku hanya pandang enteng terhadap pelajaranku. Aku menghampakan segala usaha mu dan menyelubungi cahaya penerang dengan sewenang-wenangnya. Malah, aku selalu menimbulkan berbagai masalah disiplin di dalam dan di luar sekolah. Aku mengabaikan tanggungjawabku sebagai seorang murid mahupun seorang anak yang menghormati pengorbanan orang tuanya. Oh! Mak, ku ingin pohon ampun dari mu. Sesungguhnya, ia amat melukakan kalbumu. Ia amat menggigit tangkai jiwaku apabila mengenangkannya.

Kini, aku telah faham keseluruhannya. Lantas, ini telah membangkitkan perasaanku untuk menggunakan segala daya, tenaga dan ikhtiarku untuk mencapai hala ke mercu kejayaan ini. Malangnya, kau tidak berpeluang untuk melihat sendiri hasil terakhir yang gigih ini. Kau telah meninggalkan aku terlebih dahulu buat selama-lamanya. Andainya kau masih sempat menunggunya, kau pasti senyum kebanggaan bercampur kegembiraan yang tidak terhingga untuk melihat aku berpakaian akademik sambil tercegat menyeringai bersama segulung ijazah terhormat di dalam genggamanku.

THE END.

10 more minutes from this moment, counting down towards our 52th National Days.

Selamat Hari Kemerdekaan Malaysia.

p/s : If you ask me to reuse some of the phrases or vocabularies now, I would not be able to work out the same sentences anymore.